– “What’s wrong with letting people socialize with each other?”
– “It’s their choice to be with each other.”
– “I’m [Jewish, Italian, African-American, etc.] and [live, work, play] with people with my same label.”
- It’s not: What disability work crew you want to join?; It’s: What kind of job do you prefer?
- It’s not: What group home you want?; It’s: How do you want to live and with whom?
- It’s not: Do you want to go to the mall with other people from your residential placement?; It’s: What do you want to do for fun and with whom?
And remember, if all your previous experiences have been defined by group homes, workshops, crews and enclaves, and all your friendships have developed from group home co-residents placed by others, then saying your current situation is your “preference” is really not choosing at all. When someone understandably selects the only thing they have known, then we have failed to support him or her in understanding all the possibilities.